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Cake day: July 17th, 2024

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  • I think in general people gawking at one another is not only training us to react to things that challenge us with bullying (mockery) but equally it doesn’t help us grow as a people. I hate racist, I don’t benefit a damn thing from hanging with racists. But I will also say that racism is there. I am not going to pretend it’s not. And I will also say that by thinking/talking/etc. feeding the media machine and filling it with someone’s name you basically increase the chatter about them. Which I suppose you can see right now.

    But that all together I would love the face of the internet to change because I think we’re too prone to low-level jeering. And I think we can do better as a people. Which I would say is why I have never been on 4Chan and was very happy to leave Reddit. Because people who communicate like that in real life a fucking assholes. And I don’t really want to be a part of that. Putting someone down, to pick myself up.


  • Heyyyy!! I dig it, go grandpa! Glad that he’s still kicking. Apologies. My family is the size of a peanut and never really had much in the way of _ anything =P! Really. And it’s pretty non-traditional so I don’t know much about you know stuff like this. But I have read a lot about wills and people being money hungry. And I hilariously think about god what was that one movie…I forgot it’s name but that one Wes…oh - Grand Budapest Hotel. Isn’t there a scene in it where a bunch of folks come out the woodwork looking for snips of cash? I’m not sure how all estates are settled, but I will say that if your mother is being inappropriate about her father’s finances I’m glad that she’s been superseded.

    I’m sorry about your grandma though, it is rough and grandmas make the world go round so big hugs there. I said my peace on all of that, and it really just…ugh. You love em, even when they’re long gone. Sounds like something’s gone down but all things aside I think the high road is the one worth taking 9/10 times. Then sometimes you just gotta head into Russia and bomb up the joint. But all things aside, I hate passive aggressiveness (perhaps because I am aggressively aggressive) but that shit always rubs me the wrong way. It’s like playing shitty chess, and and people are trying to subversively manipulate you instead of saying what they need. And you’ve got a wife - so you’ve got to know clear communication is necessary to keep a healthy relationship going. So at the end of the day I actually (personally) consider that shit abusive. Which…on my end kinda sucks =P! Cause I currently live in for sure one of the most passive aggressive states in America =P!

    No worries about feels dumps, you gotta express yourself and you’re SUPER allowed to. Hell I dump all over the joint, no worries! I think you’re a bigger person for dumping because most people keep that shit in. I mean for each of us, how many people are just sneaking around peeking at shit and being little voyeurs. At least you’re out here participating =P! You do you, you’re doing good!

    I have had the grace of being able to form a little micro-relationship with my last grandma and get some stories (as well as share some) which would otherwise be lost to time. Including some really eye opening things, which have been so…pleasing as a human to hear. I honestly - well the one thing I told my gal when I met her is that I want a relationship much akin to my grandparents. Because most folks come and go and bob and weave. The gay community isn’t know for it’s sticking power when it comes to relationships. And I was getting older and I just wanted a person to “span time with” (thank you Buffalo 66). And we’ve been together since for 10 years and shit has been all over the place but I am really thankful she bought in. Cause you gotta get someone to buy in, you can’t force that kinda thing =P! And it has been such a lovely thing to have that kind of commitment and I really wish it for most folks (not all, but most) in a relationship because I don’t think I’d trade this for anything. And while our branches of the tree might not be continuing onward after us it’s been a blast just being able to be with someone you can laugh and reminisce with even after 10 freakin’ years. I might not get that whole 50, but I hope I can get some solid time with the missus before one of us leaves this mortal coil.

    That got me all in a feels kinda way. You put a dumb smile on my face, and I thank you (and your seemingly lovely grandfather) for that =)! Best of luck, and people who put money over family don’t understand the meaning of life. Cheers!




  • Ah shit, yeah see I didn’t know. Just you know - listen to the music cause a cute gal likes it. Typical dumb teen shit =P! Yeah actually, I dig joints like that but I see their roots fading as time goes on. Kinda like say - Andersonville in Chicago. I mean still there, but for sure less a cultural thing, more of a “chip-ster” (chill hipster) spot =P!

    My namie-name is a reference to the goof-about show Mandy. In it there’s a payday loans commercial for a company called Cash Maggot =P! S’all~



  • After a shit-traumatic event I crammed bb down my throat to chill the fuck out. It was my Tetris =P! That opening song is fucking AWFUL to sleep to. And I wouldn’t advise it for anyone personally because it has woken me from the depths a truck-ton when I was using it during that period. Counter - I am always an advocate of their earlier show dr. katz. That’s a good sleep show because it’s like a podcast and not terribly loud or “exciting” but that’s just me.


  • Yes, my partner watches shows on her phone too. It has to be something she knows like the back of her hand but she still likes. To be honest it’s pretty much Futurama or American Dad and she plays it with the filters on and set down a bit so it doesn’t bug me (too much). I still don’t like having tv on personally in the house. I also have a Sony alarm clock that everyone hates for being “too dark” but it’s the only led I allow in my bedroom. Everything else is painted over with acrylic, turned off or taped over. It keeps things from distracting me. If you don’t like sleeping in the dark - find what you do like sleeping in. They sell multi-colored lights you can find your own rhythm and if you’re interested in a partner(s) down the line (or have one currently) there’s surely either something a) you both/all can agree on or b) will find that magical glass slipper of a person who likes the same sleep setup as you =P!


  • If you let any electronics come into your bed and you are attempting to sleep, you’ve already lost. But if you read on your devices try to turn off everything you plausibly can in order to setup an environment conducive to reading. You could also grab an ereader and load it up with a couple of books (not too many, you’ll get overwhelmed) and take them down bit by bit. Put on some soft music with a timer if you need some noise. Or get used to the silence, which I don’t think I was super into when I was younger but for sure got easier and more desirable as I got older.

    Put your phone across the room on a charger if you can - because it’ll not only help with falling asleep but also waking up. Because you gotta drag your ass outta bed to get it. If you live somewhere terribly cold leave your clothes under your sheets with your phone at the base of the bed. Try and keep them folded up so they don’t look like smashed up shit.

    My partner sleeps with tv on every night, but she watches it on her phone so everyone’s got their something. In extreme measures (when I am trying to force a habit) I have all my electronics shut down at a set time. But I am pretty okay with myself right now. Just figured I’d share what works. But you gotta find your own rhythm.

    One last thing is - if you get medicated you pass out like the dead all night. At least in my case. So you know, find what works.

    p.s. - WORKOUT! Do eet! Get yourself as tired as a sleepy dog.

    p.p.s. - Washi paper =)!




  • Idk bullshit peddler, I can’t get with you on this one. Because I think at the end of the day - anything will be seen as “up for grabs” and illustrators will be on the outs like loomers. And while I am somewhat okay with the idea of rug makers (among other loomable items) being antiquated - creativity should not be because it’s the pulse of human expression for many and if we lessen it/deny it - I think the whole world will begin to taste like corn-flakes.

    I saw this growing up in a way, they took our arts program and nobody really found any way to express themselves and at the end of the day where I grew up very few people ever amounted to much of anything =/! I think expression is needed, and must be safeguarded because you need to feel safe to express and must know that it’s a worthwhile venue to venture into. But this is all kinda arm flapping. You can’t stop the future and clearly AI is here to stay - so now we’ve got to work around what we can.

    But, by the by - I still love the bs you’re putting down =)


  • ++ I get so bummed out that people who are running models are unabashedly stealing from people left and right and then shrugging their shoulders for their unethical practices. Perhaps pay people for their catalogues at an agreed upon rate or be a disgusting pig and buy from their estate after death. But don’t just come out here and train your models on everything as if it were a free for all and as if creativity amounted to nothing more than fodder for unabashed capitalism =/!



  • I know that there are a series of faux-findings. Because I believe I read one in a book…? About chicken bones being used. And I know that there is a black fossil market including fake fossils. But the west went through their own bone wars and it makes me think that perhaps this is just an alternative of that. But I think there are so few great discoveries here in America exclusively by this point on account of everything being so moist and developed (although I know bogs can preserve things). I believe all the latest findings coming out of China are all from a desert portion of the country. And that perhaps being under-developed in that space and perhaps faults being exposed by say…earthquakes or something make the striation more visible which in turn leads to more fossils being detectable? I am not sure though, because I know very little about China as a whole and am not a geologist or a paleontologist.


  • Oh sigh, I didn’t catch it first go round because I didn’t really care that much but I knew so many human beings who came out as “bisexual” first me included because being gay all the way would have been too risque. I was watching…I think it was Clerks. Yeah, for sure it was Clerks. And 1/2 the jokes in there were homophobic. And the reason why I say this was because at the time to be gay was to be deformed, perverse, you were a broken hell-destined human being. At least if you had one leg in the door you’d be okay. But at the end of the day idk? I am not Freddie Mercury. I wasn’t raised in any which white way and I for sure did not listen to Queen or the Beatles until I was an adult. I have zero skin in the game and I don’t really care to speculate about dead celebrities, let alone celebrities on any large or real scale. But I will say that there was a ton of things that people had to go through back in the day that I think people had to hide or overcome through non-traditional pathways that would be less of an issue nowadays. Although it still is to some point, and I’d say it’s probably a ripple effect of culture x toxic-masculinity.



  • Gay men always sang in a straight way, hinted in a straight way did all sorts of stuff in a straight way because it’s what sells, it was what was expected and it was what was normal. Have you seen a gay man’s ass? They’re far more fantastic than any woman’s. They just do it right =P! Mind you, I’m a dyke, so this is me speaking out of love. But a simple place to point would be Labi Siffre. Who is also from the same time period and area abouts. He sang about women all the damn time, but that man had two partners he loved very dearly and neither were as such. While I can’t point one way or another I will say not only was it a different time but even within the gay scene it was a different culture. People did what they needed to do, or thought they should do - in order to cope. And for sure when I came out I was still rolling through waves of it too. It’s why I am glad queers nowadays (not as a whole but more so than ever before) can just be big old fagolas and what have you. But there’s still more work to be done. I haven’t really been a part of THE CULTURE for a min, so it’s all kinda foggy. But I will say in general, for sure I have seen some real “cover-up” stories for people just trying to do what’s right. But either way you’re entitled to your opinion and I am entitled to mine. I don’t really give a ploop about Freddie Mercury as a whole other than that man could sing. Cause he could. S’all.