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  • My dad and my stepmom would love to do more for our 2 year old, but my dad still works, my step-mom has a lot of health issues that they have to maintain appointments for, and they also have like 6 other grandchildren from my stepbrothers. My wife and I live an hour away and do very well financially, so they not only don’t have the time, but could not realistically care for him that often.

    My mom is well meaning, but my step-dad is a moron and they own like 4 vehicles and only 1 works. They are not poor, just dumb when it comes to cars. My mom is also a narcissist and it does not occur to her that if she asked to help more that she could. We’ve talked to her about it, and she just doesn’t attempt to do anything.

    My grandparents, now in their 80s, love every minute with the little guy, but they don’t have the energy they used to.

    Contrast that with out daycare: the facility is run by two sisters and their retired father helps out to keep busy. They hire teachers at a living wage and absolutely love the kids that attend. Our little guy has not yet had his 2nd birthday and he knows almost all of his letters, he can count to 14, he knows his shapes, and he has a great vocabulary already. He has a best friend, he is very social with the other kids and they all share very well. The older kids are all very well spoken, polite, and respectful to each other. We are so lucky we found such a great place.

    Grandma and grandpa simply could not provide him with that. He is in a place where he is safe and loved at all times, and the cost to put him there should be tax deductible. We burn through the child care tax deduction by February.

    And anyone who thinks Trump/Vance is the right choice for families is a fucking moron. It’s ridiculous













  • Clearly you’ve never worked with the homeless…it’s not the “look of poverty” as you alluded, it’s really more about active drug use or untreated mental health disorders.

    Some people certainly fall on hard times, but many have serious mental health disorders that for a variety of reasons they are not managing. We often require an address and lots of paperwork to provide government benefits in the US, so it isn’t hard for people to fall out of the system.

    Once that happens, it’s really hard to find your way back. There are certainly not enough programs to help people reintegrate with society. At the same time, a homeless encampment in a neighborhood is not a reasonable solution either.

    I volunteered nearly every week feeding the food and housing insecure in Philly for nearly 3 years pre-covid (I moved shortly before Covid). It was a great experience and I got to know many people that I might have otherwise walked past, and it really underscored the value of social services and lack of help available.

    It also taught me that people need to be in a place to accept help. The ones that were not in that place are the ones you worry about - they have nothing to lose. Most that came to the church to be served lunch (usually 100-200) were to an extent willing to receive help. Some had bad days or would relapse into drug use, but they were generally trying to do better.

    But there were other, much darker, places in the city that people unwilling or unable to accept help went. Places like Kensington in North Philly. That was a huge problem for years…it was a huge open air drug market that basically occupied that area. Finally, I think just this year, police cleared the encampments there.

    It’s not a great solution, but it also wasn’t tenable. My point is that you should understand that not all housing insecure populations are just good people that bad things happened to. Those not in a place to get help or actively using drugs can be dangerous. I certainly would not let my son near that group, nor would I gleefully accept an encampment near my house