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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • Sweden is overall fine, we’re generally depresingly car-friendly but you’re never really car-dependent as such, even in the most turbo-rural areas you’ll have access to a service that is basically taxis operated by the provincial public transport org and runs on the same tickets (though you won’t want to rely on this), and in urban areas you can generally get around perfectly fine with both bike and walking (although walking will take a looooong time).

    Stockholm obviously has the very competent subway (which is currently being extended by quite a lot!) and has a bunch of other local railways and an extensive bus system. Gothenburg has the largest tram network in the nordics and is refreshingly human-centric and it’s only getting better.
    Malmö is eeeeeeeeeh, it’s got a weird quasi-subway with the commuter trains running through it to the rest of the region, but otherwise refuses to stop trying to solve all their problems with buses.

    One interesting thing in sweden is that basically any vaguely sizable town will have one or several “suburbs” that are basically a bunch of commie blocks and amenities organized into a tiny town of its own, which will have reliable public transport connection to the public transport hub. This means that you can almost always find some vaguely affordable housing where you can live without ever needing a car.







  • i have literally been waiting TWO FUCKING YEARS here in sweden, and now i’m finally getting referred to a private clinic in november, and then presumably i’ll get to actually go there sometime in december.

    wow golly fucking gee i wonder why people are killing themselves, what a mystery huh, man such a brain tickler.

    this is fiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiine, what society really needs is cheaper gasoline





  • there’s yellow paint and an indent on the back of the car, in the path of the bollard, which looks quite real to me and feels like a lot of effort to go into for an internet post

    edit: now that i think about it some more, and look closer, i’m gonna wager that they did really hit the bollard and maybe fucked up the car, but they then posed things to fake the bollard going through the car. It’s convenient how the first photo hides the base of the bollard and the area where it would pierce the car, and the second one could quite easily be two separate photos with the middle of the bollard erased to match the outline of the car’s rear.



  • this depends heavily on the specific candy/dessert IMO, solid sugar candy is fine because it dissolves slowly, but some stuff just detonates a sugar bomb on your tongue and it genuinely makes me shudder in bone-deep rejection of something that must be poison.

    Swedish desserts are generally really enjoyable to me because they have a bunch of savoury with the sugar mostly coming from some sort of jelly or stuffing, like in cinnamon buns.


  • The way i think about this is that it is an excuse, but it’s not an excuse to not try to work around it.
    We all do our best, and for some that really isn’t a lot and that’s FINE! But there are also probably ways you and others can find that enable you to do a whole lot more, which benefits everyone.

    As a really really concrete example: I simply do not have the mental energy to constantly take proper care of my teeth, so i don’t try to hold myself to that standard since it would eat away at me and make me fucking miserable.
    However i also don’t just give up, instead i do my best to brush when i have the energy for it, i take flouride pills to strengthen the teeth, i try to avoid sweets and stuff that harms dental health, and i literally just swish some water around my mouth every time i drink (this dislodges the food scraps and adds a little bit more flouride to the teeth).

    Yeah it’s not as good as properly brushing my teeth regularly with toothpaste, but it’s the best way i’ve found to take care of my teeth while still being mentally sustainable, and that’s all you can ask.


  • 100%, either outcome is positive: either i immediately learn that i want nothing to do with the person and that being around them would be detrimental to me, or they’re a decent person and can use the knowledge to make things easier for everyone.

    “hi, just so you know, i’m autistic and have ADHD so i’m going to be staring at everything BUT your face while doing weird stims, and my leg WILL be bouncing and i might need to take a break to just go outside and jump my excess energy away. just a heads up so you know what’s going on and that i’m not trying to make you uncomfortable, and i don’t need to feel miserable by trying to mask these things away which would inevitably lead to me avoiding you”


  • Why the fuck is that not a valid excuse? It can be impossible to find sufficient support and adjustments to enable yourself to reliably arrive on time, saying shit like this is a great way to make people who are already struggling feel even more worthless, jesus christ.

    Yeah sure, you can’t expect people to literally always be able to accomodate every struggle everyone may have, but to just summarily say “deal with it” is so heartless…