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Cake day: March 11th, 2024

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  • I’m not vegan but I eat plenty of incidentally vegan meals, and all of the best ones have been the ones that weren’t trying to imitate another food. They just can’t get the texture right and I’d rather not eat some squishy disc of beans and wheat while trying to convince myself it’s a burger. It’s not. I know it’s not and pretending doesn’t make it any more of one. Give me a good soup or curry or pasta dish instead.





  • Dan Savage coined the term “gold star pedophile” in a column years ago, referring to people who acknowledge their attraction to children but never act on it by harming a child or accessing CSAM. I do feel bad for these people because there are no resources to help them. The only way they can access actual therapeutic resources for their condition is by offending and going to jail. If the pedophile goes to a therapist and confesses attraction to children, therapists are mandated reporters and will assume they’re going to act on it. An article I read a few years back interviewed members of an online community of non-offending pedophiles who essentially made their own support group since no one else will help them, and nearly all research on them is from a forensic (criminal) context.

    There’s a pretty good article by James Cantor talking about dealing with pedophiles in a therapeutic context here.

    Don’t get me wrong - I think offenders need to be punished for what they do. I unfortunately have a former best friend who has offended. He’s no longer in my life and never will be again. But I think we could prevent offenders from reaching that point and hurting someone if we did more research and found ways to stop them before it happened.






  • Not an incel but someone on the trans-and-women-hating pick me pipeline: Got into a fight with a Reddit mod about autism. I’m autistic and ended up arguing with a sub’s mod about how not all autistic people are special snowflake tumblerinas. Left such a bad taste in my mouth that I stopped going to the sub, which was my main source of hate content. Let me get exposed to other viewpoints and ultimately I came out as nonbinary after previously saying nonbinary people weren’t real.