I came across this article from 2018 and it really spoke to me as a late-diagnosed autistic only just learning what “comfortable” feels like.

  • Lexam@lemmy.ca
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    1 year ago

    Best response I can think of to people saying this. “You need to leave my comfort zone.”

  • Boozilla@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Your comfort zone is BAD because it doesn’t make MONEY for ME. --typical boss mentality

  • DaSaw@midwest.social
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    1 year ago

    I think we’re “supposed” to destroy ourselves for the sake of advancement for a few reasons:

    1. To preserve the myth of Western egalitarianism. Supposedly, we have a classless society. Anyone can make it if they just put in the effort. Mind you, this isn’t true: plenty try and fail, and even those who succeed sacrifice their life to advance from one class to another. But we’re supposed to believe that the only reason we don’t have certain things is because we don’t want it bad enough, and/or lack the discipline to succeed. The goal: get people to always look inward for the source of their suffering, and fail to recognize the very real economic parasitism that prospers at our expense.

    2. A manifestation of that old but persistent notion that to be righteous is to suffer. If you are happy, if you aren’t suffering, you must be doing something wrong. Good food tastes bad. Good exercise hurts. Good work is miserable. To be good in spirit is to mortify the flesh. Put on your hair shirt, run five miles, drop and give me twenty, and then complete a twelve hour shift. Sleep is for the weak.

    What offends people who take this advice more than anything is someone who hasn’t lived this way, and yet is happy when they are not.