I met a girl that I’m interested in and enjoys comics like I do, would something like asking her out to a comic store be dumb? I have a hard time talking to girls so not sure if this would be a dumb idea.

  • skulkingaround@sh.itjust.works
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    6 months ago

    It’s a good idea. You may want to plan a second activity like lunch or a walk in the park as well.

    And just be direct. Something like “Hey, do you want to go on a date with me? We can grab something to eat and go to the comic store.”

    If she says no, don’t push it. Just say okay and wish them well.

    I too was terrible at talking to girls. I still am but my girlfriend doesn’t seem to mind lol

    Whatever you do, just don’t try any pickup artist or smooth talking tactics. It’s gross and cringey, doubly so if you don’t have the confidence to pull it off.

    I would also disagree with a lot of the other comments, if you want to date this person, make it clear you want a date. Don’t try to do the be friends then turn it romantic thing. It can work but not when you already know you want to date them.

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      6 months ago

      I think the asking for a date right away strategy doesn’t really work with everyone. You can be already sure you want to date her, but she can feel she doesn’t know you well enough yet and asking directly like that could feel like you’re too fast for her. And it could close the door for you. It’s ok to get to know one another a bit before you go out officially.

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        6 months ago

        Getting to know someone is what dates are for. If that closes the door they were never gonna work out. Don’t force love on people by disguising it. Life is too short for games.